Qualified Perceptions

You can't stand around on the street with 30 people and worry that someone wants to eat at a particular place but won't say so. I mean, how could you possibly figure that out in that setting?

If you want to eat, you speak up and say where you're going. You'll either force a subset of the group to shout you down (which is fine, cause you only wanted to know what they wanted in the first place), or they'll go where you want to go. It's win-win.

I don't really think anyone should get hurt feelings over this. Surely everyone can see that it's impossible to have any kind of detailed discussion in this situation.