Qualified Perceptions

The bad choices were not unreasonable or out of character. In that one it was basically, "I still thought we were in the pointed conversation phase of the conflict. If I had escalated to violence first, I wouldn't been so surprised when he grabbed me." So, it's not even like it was a deliberate choice "I shall take the moral high ground by letting him grab me!", just a mistake. Other examples were things like "I was too full of myself so I bragged about something I shouldn't have." All of them reasonable mistakes to make especially for a young character who hasn't quite realized that she has enemies.